My boyfriend doesn’t like me to write too much about him on this blog, which I totally respect, so I’m going to keep this update a bit general. I’m just nervous about this and need to share it somehow.
When we were first dating, before we were serious, his parents realized that he was seeing an…
I don’t know quite what to say. For me Car’s mom guessed he had a girlfriend back in January and he told her all about me. She doesn’t mind and actually wasn’t at all surprised that he was dating an American. He and his dad aren’t close so I don’t think he knows.
His sister, on the other hand, has known since about Christmas (we’d been dating for a week by then) and Car wants me to meet her next week when I go to Daegu. I’m a little nervous, and I’ve told Car that, but I’m hoping for the best.
Hoping for the best is about all you can do. Smile, be friendly, show them respect, and bring a little gift that’s not overdone, but shows that you put some thought into it. Maybe have Facebook help you pick out something appropriate. And if he tells you it’s not necessary, then agree with him and say that you want to do it anyway.
I hope that helps.
If Phd hadnt told his parents as quick as he did….the blonde hairs that he (and his mom) is constantly finding on his clothes would’ve given it away very quickly.
I mean, I’m pretty sure they know already, since he’s been coming home super late all the time and been talking to me on the phone constantly.
This is just going to be about him officially telling them…which is nerve-racking. They might worry about it getting serious and stuff. I don’t know. I have almost no idea what to expect.
I know all the manners and stuff in case I have to meet them, plus I can speak enough Korean to get through meeting them and conversing with them. I just don’t like thinking that they have a prejudice about me before even meeting me. It makes me feel like I have to prove myself, so I’m feeling really nervous about the ordeal in general.
but accordingly, don’t have a prejudice that they will have a prejudice against you…
That’s very true. Also remember that most parents will judge their children’s significant others. Loserbrain’s parents were a little aloof and judging at first, not directly to me, but to him. Once they realized that what we felt was real (at that time) and that I wasn’t trying to screw up his life, we got along well. I’ve actually talked to his mom several times since he and I broke up. Mainly Christmas emails, but very pleasant, like you’d get from an old family friend or teacher. As long as the parents are human and you’re not a secret serial killer or something, you’ll be fine. :)
Unless you are a secret serial killer…
I’m a secret serial killer… And I still want to be happy ;)