God. I’ll say it again. Women, please don’t sleep with this kind of man. They are beneath you. If a man doesn’t like your body, he can take his lazy ass out the door and try to trick someone else into putting up with his childish bullshit.
Or, if you’re Korean, or at least one of the ones I’ve dated, apparently simply pipe up with
“Wow you have a big [insert even slightest bit flabby body part here]!” :/
I dunno. when you’re in a long term relationship isn’t it okay to discuss health with your partner? I gained a bunch of weight last year due to some meds I was on for my Crohn’s disease. I mean it’s not like my partner said I was fat, but he could tell I was unhappy and he was on board when I wanted to get rid of snacks and asked him to help me help myself by cooking healthier and eating smaller portions. He also started to make these changes in his life as well.(he needs to because although he isn’t big, he isn’t fit and the way he eats carbs/sugar I worry, seriously worry about diabetes for him.)
I don’t really think all of these methods, like shaming someone for asking for more food if they are hungry. But sometimes when we eat, I ask him if he’ll wait a half hour with me to see if we’re REALLY hungry or if we just think we want some because it tastes good. Usually we still want more ;)
Anyways, I guess if I hadn’t known my bf for as long as I do then maybe I wouldn’t be comfortable talking about diet and health with him. But at the same time, when you’re spending years together, and you think, omg that person that I love is developing/has unhealthy habits and I’m worried that they will not be around for long… I think you do what you can.
So… I get them a lot. I used to go to a chiropractor in Canada and he’d snap, crackle, and pop my neck and it would be all good.
Without that maintenance I’m dying over here! What should I do?
Another question for the internets: Well more specifically people who moved to Korea, but used to live in drier climates. How do you drink enough water to stay hydrated? I am finding it incredibly hard to drink enough water. I can get to my usual 2L per day but it doesn’t seem to be enough now that I sweat out my existence every day. What do you guys do?
I seriously fucking HATE banking in Korea. They only keep hours that EVERYONE ELSE WHO HAS A JOB WOULD BE WORKING DURING. So you’re thinking. So what, just get internet banking. Okay. Let me give the FORTY THOUSAND PASSWORDS YOU NEED. Oh and every. EVERY. Single. Time. You. Enter. Your. Password. EVERY TIME. EVEN IF IT IS LETTER BY FUCKING LETTER. It will tell you it is incorrect AT LEAST 3 times before letting you go to the next part.
WHAT THE FUCK KOREA. Everywhere else in the world you just set it up at the bank. Go to the banks website. Enter your debit card number and the password they gave you at the bank. Change your password. SET FOR LIFE. EASY.
Also everywhere else when you make a bill payment you can save that shit. no no we like to add that in EACH AND EVERY FUCKING MONTH. It says there is an option for commonly used accounts but when I click it nothing is in there ???
I dunno. I’m just stressed because I set out to transfer money home and pay my bills today and it took me almost an hour and a half. I have cried in frustration at this point because I don’t even fucking get why it decided it wouldn’t send my fucking money. Like fine, I WONT PAY MY BILLS THEN! garg. I still have to go pay my internet manually because I can’t figure out where the info I need is on the bill. So whatever.
Also what the fuck is up with the annoying thing trying to make me LOG OUT every 5 minutes. I can understand it if I wasn’t being active on the page, but I’m literally typing in numbers and it tries to LOG ME OUT! WTF. Seriously. If Shinhan was a person, I would have beat them to death by now. With my computer.
Anyways just a rant about how retarded banking is here. It isn’t easy. Fuck what eatyourkimchi says. It isn’t easy, it sucks compared to Canada. It’s cheaper. But I’d rather pay more money to get a service that is convienient than deal with this shit every month. Like I know that I will cry. So I have to set aside an afternoon to do it where I wont need to be in a rush. Isn’t that ridiculous? In Canada I could just log on from my iPhone and make a payment ANYWHERE. I didn’t need a million passwords and a card with numbers all over it that will one day run out and I’ll somehow need to make it to the bank during my work hours to get a new one.
Ughhh… I actually have to sit here, by myself, all day. with an air conditioner that is blowing HOT air. I mean today I actually have some things I can do. But tomorrow. and the next day. and the next day. oiii.
I realize I’m getting paid to be here. But I am the type of person who would rather be a little less rich to enjoy my free time a little more thoroughly.
Whatever. Once I run out of real work, it’s gossip girls, my new Jane Austen book (yes I’m only just reading it now!), and studying Korean. Although maybe not in that order, but probably.
Also, on a side note unrelated to anything, the cicadas here in Seoul sound cuter than in Daejeon/Daegu. They sound like in Harvest Moon and other Japanese video games. wweeewooowoo woo… okay they don’t sound like that but you know, that rhythm. In Daejeon/Daegu, they just sounded like they were screaming. It was freaky as fuck.
Ughh I hope this works! I pigged out on cheese popcorn last night :(
To feel more satisfied with your food — and possibly avoid pigging out — use this mind trick: Just focus on the calories.
Doing so could dial down your hunger big-time — especially if you convince yourself you’re indulging in a rich, high-calorie treat. Because new research shows that people’s perception of calorie content affects their appetite-control hormones.
Mind over Hunger Pangs In a study, researchers gave a small group of college students the same 350-calorie milk shake but told half the students that it was an indulgent 650-calorie treat. The other half thought it was a sensible 140-calorie snack. And what the students thought had a huge impact on how many hunger hormones their bodies produced. For the students who thought they were drinking a creamy, high-cal shake, their bodies’ production of hunger-inducing ghrelin totally nosedived. But in the other group? Not as much. Which led researchers to conclude that just the perception of calorie intake can alter hunger-producing body chemistry.
Appetite-Lowering Logic? Most of us typically underestimate our calorie intake. So getting an accurate picture of how many calories you’re taking in at breakfast, lunch, and dinner could be a good place to start when it comes to keeping hunger hormones at bay. Outside of that, it’s not clear whether it will help to tell yourself something’s high in calories when it isn’t. But researchers think it might, because the study strongly suggests that people’s expectations, mindset, and perceptions can play a bigger role in hunger-hormone production and feelings of satiety than the actual number of calories being eaten.
Pigtails, sunglasses, a romper, flip flops and red lipstick. Pretty blah day. Even though I felt sweaty and blah while walking to Tous Le Jours for buns for my sloppy joes, some kind lady walked past me and mentioned to me that I was ipuda. I think it means pretty? I’m not sure but it was sweet of her<3
And then I made sloppy joes and they were delicous :)
This is an article about Seoul City hiring four female marriage immigrants to oversee immigrant/expatriate issues in the city, which is AWESOME.
Jasmine Lee from the Philippines, third from the left in the picture, is of course the adorable woman from the TV show “Love in Asia”. She also appears alongside Christina from Misuda in the recent subway ad, “Foreigners? No, we are SEOULITES!” which is of course a campaign I love.
The government efforts in both tourism and immigrant/expat services tend to get royally bashed in the Westerner-in-Korea blogosphere. While, yes, the national-level government’s stuff makes me cry into my coffee on a regular basis, you guys, Seoul City metropolitan government is effing amazing. The business travel division is incredible and are absolutely my favorite people to work with. The stuff like Seoul City Center and the business agency and foreign entrepreneur services are golden — their promotions aren’t great, but they get better all the time. Even the tourism programs and apps that Seoul does are decent… especially compared to everything else in Asia.
So yes, soapbox for Seoul, etc. Bash KTO if you want but I love Seoul City <3
Awesome idea and yes being called FORGEINER all the time does get on my nerves~
Eating Well Magazine. Want to lose weight? Try increasing your daily fiber intake in the form of nutrient-rich high-fiber foods. Why fiber? Recent research in the Journal of Nutrition suggests eating more fiber as a way to prevent weight gain or even encourage weight loss. Over the course…
This is basically the opposite of my last post. I was talking about how there are some food frauds, that sound healthy but that are far from that. Now, here there are some of the foods with the worst reputation, but that actually, are really healthy if they’re consumed in the right portions!!…
I’m on my way to Seoul Station to catch my train down to Daejeon for a fun night with my ex-student/friend DongYoung ~ Then tomorrow I am off to Daegu to visit another exS and friend Woo Seok ^-^
It’s going to be Legen-wait for it-dary
You know what? It makes me tired.
I’m tired. I’m exhausted from explaining it. I’m worn out from only being able to have the conversation with people who already agree with me, because it’s just not even going to go down a rational path with people who don’t.
Let’s look at it from another direction. Let’s rewind time for Watson in that fucking elevator.
What they are saying, since Watson didn’t get raped: The man was obviously just nervous. He just wanted to have a conversation. He was’t a threat. She had no reason to perceive him as a threat. He wasn’t suggesting anything. He wasn’t being inappropriate. She read into that situation completely on her own and blew it out of proportion (apparently just by pointing out that it made her uncomfortable?). She’s whining, and her expectations for men are too high.
So let’s reverse time and put her back in the elevator. Let’s give her the mindset that these people say she should’ve had. Let’s have her agree to just go and have coffee and conversation with this strange man in his hotel room in a foreign country at 4 in the morning. Because, after all, there was nothing wrong with what he did. Nothing creepy about it. Nothing suspicious or threatening.
And let’s just say she did end up raped.
What would they be saying then?
How could she have done something so stupid? Really? A strange man approached her in an elevator at 4 in the morning in a foreign country and invited her back to his hotel room, and she didn’t pick up on his meaning? Why would a woman go back to a man’s hotel room alone at the time if she didn’t intend to sleep with him? Really? What is she, new? What did she expect to happen?
So, apparently, the only exact proper way for Watson to have behaved in this situation to escape criticism on all sides was to perceive a threat, but be polite about it. Intuit this man’s meaning, but not point it out. Read into the danger of the situation, but keep her mouth shut about it in public. She’s expected to read a mind, protect herself, keep up the social veneer of a proper response, and then not even acknowledge that the entire incident even occurred.
And what was the man expected to do? Whatever he felt like doing, apparently. Because he was just nervous, and he just made a mistake, and he didn’t mean it like that, and he didn’t do anything wrong.
And it’s Watson’s expectations for his behavior which were too high. It’s women who expect too much out of men. It’s women who are whining and complaining and being unreasonable.
In every situation, people are ready to stand by with excuses for men. Men are the ones who are supposed to be understood and forgiven and accommodated and made to always feel comfortable by women.
Even if you do think that Watson was mistaken in her understanding of the situation, where are her excuses? Where is your inclination to point out that maybe she was just nervous and didn’t know how to properly respond to the situation?
Not allowed. Women: the mighty mind readers, self-protectors, and social smoothers in every situation.
That’s exhausting. That is really fucking exhausting.
Reblogging the whooole thing for everyone not in the Korea blogosphere (since all y’alls are obv. following INP.)
Regarding the Rebecca Watson / Christopher Hitchens / with added Richard Dawkins commentary incident. This is why it’s unfair and why it’s harassment.
Just in case any of my male friends or followers out there still don’t get it, you have a privilege, because you don’t have to go through your lives every day both being afraid of and simultaneously having to accommodate the opposite sex. If it’s exhausting for you to have to worry about whether you’re “going to offend some crazy feminist”, don’t worry, it’s wholly more exhausting for us to have to watch ourselves every moment of every hour of every day because if anything ever happens, it’s still seen as our fault and our burden by the majority, by the media, and by the courts.
I just love the way you both write ♥ And obviously I agree on the subject as well~
Immediately devote yourself to getting rid of your cold fast. If you start feeling sick but spend the rest of the day working, playing, or running around, your body wont have a chance to recover. You must devote all of your energy to your immune system fighting off the cold. Go home and lie down if you want to get rid of your cold fast.
—> I did this for the first two weekends. Actually I’ve been generally going to bed earlier and taking it easy (except for yoga) the entire time! I can’t leave work it has been over a month!!!
Take a bath. As soon as you get home you want to get yourself clean. This will make you feel better and relax you. The steam of the bathwater will also clear up congestion if you have it.
—> I don’t have a bath, I would love one! I have been to the jimjilbang. Perhaps I should go again?
Wash your hands often. This is probably how you got sick in the first place. Cold germs hide on your hands. When you touch your mouth, nose, or eyes the germs get into your body. You want to avoid reinfecting yourself and exposing others to your cold germs. Also change your toothbrush and keep it away from other peoples’ toothbrushes.
—> I suspect this is it. The school is DISGUSTING. they wash the surfaces with a dirty rag, everyday. they just wipe the dirty rage over all the surfaces. And there is no way to dry your hands so I’ve pretty much just stopped washing them unless I have 10 minutes to wait for them to dry. I should invest in some lysol wipes and hand sanitizer? What does anyone else do?
Lie down. If you can sleep, you should do as much of it as possible. If you can’t, lie down with a book or watch TV. The key is to expend as little energy as possible. Your body will concentrate on getting well.
—> If I got any lazier, seriously. I want to lose weight not gain it! I am pretty relaxed I just go to yoga as well. Which should be good right??
Eat well. If you are sick you may not feel like eating. You must anyway. Your body is hungry for nutrients to battle the cold. Eat foods that are high in protein but easy to digest. Mom was right. Chicken soup is one of the best food for getting rid of a cold fast. Avoid fried food, sweets, and fatty foods. These are more difficult for the body to digest and hinder your ability to get well.
—> not a problem. Well I mean I eat fried food, but whatever.
Drink lots and lots of water. Being sick dehydrates you. Your body needs the water to metabolize your food and fight the cold. Water also cleanses your system. Keep drinking water and keep going to the bathroom. Think of it as washing yourself on the inside. Do not replace water with coffee, soft drinks, or alcohol. These will dehydrate you. Iced tea or lemonade are fine as long as there is not a lot of sugar in them.
—> I drink so much fracking water. It’s retarded. There is no way this is a problem.
7 Take supplements. This is the controversial part. Many people claim that vitamin C, zinc, and echinacea can get rid of a cold fast. There are conflicting studies on the matter and no conclusive proof that they work. However, they probably wont harm you. The bottom line is that you can take them if you believe they will work. Believing that you will get rid of a cold fast is an important step in achieving the goal.
—> I do take a multivitamin and extra Vitamin D and Calcium almost everyday!
In conclusion, what do you guys do about getting sick here? I haven’t been sick for this long, ever! I don’t know what I can do! I would go to a doctor but I don’t know how antibiotics can help me!?!?!?